Counselling and mediation

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This page has information on getting counselling or mediation to help work through your problems.

What is counselling?

Couples experiencing the breakdown of a relationship can approach a counselling organisation to help with relationship difficulties. These agencies can work with you to try and resolve any difficulties, or to help you come to terms with splitting up. You don't have to attend counselling as a couple - if your partner refuses to sees a counsellor, you can go on your own.

What is mediation?

Mediation can help couples that are splitting up come to an amicable arrangement about the family home and care of children. A mediator won't tell you what to do, and won't make either of you feel that you are to blame for the breakdown in your relationship. Instead they will help you talk openly and honestly to each other, in the hopes of reaching an agreement.

Mediation is not a substitute for legal advice. It's a good idea to talk to a solicitor before attending mediation sessions, to make sure you understand your rights and options. Talk to your solicitor before agreeing to anything with your partner.

Mediation may not be appropriate if your partner has behaved in a violent or threatening manner towards you.

The Scottish Mediation Network can explain more about what mediation is and put you in touch with a mediator.

Family Mediation Scotland

Family Mediation Scotland offers couples who are separating or living apart the chance to make arrangements for their children's future without the involvement of lawyers.

Scottish Marriage Care

Scottish Marriage Care offers counselling to anyone in a relationship, whether you're married, living together or going out, lesbian/gay or heterosexual. Counselling is free, although you will be asked to make a donation if possible. Visit the Scottish Marriage Care website to find your nearest centre.

Relate Scotland

Relate Scotland (formerly Couple Counselling Scotland) offers confidential counselling at centres across Scotland for people in all kinds of relationships, including same sex relationships. There is no set fee, although you will be asked to make a donation if you can afford to. Visit the Relate Scotland website to find your nearest office.