Family mediation and counselling

This page has information on getting couples or families counselling and mediation to help work through your problems.

What is counselling?

Couples or families experiencing the breakdown of a relationship can approach a counselling organisation to help with relationship difficulties. These agencies can work with you to try and resolve any difficulties, or to help you come to terms with splitting up. You don't have to attend counselling as a couple - if your partner refuses to see a counsellor, you can go on your own.

What is mediation?

Mediation can help couples that are splitting up come to an amicable arrangement about the family home and care of children. A mediator won't tell you what to do, and won't make either of you feel that you are to blame for the breakdown in your relationship. Instead they will help you talk openly and honestly to each other, in the hopes of reaching an agreement.

Mediation may not be appropriate if your partner has behaved in a violent or threatening manner towards you.

Mediation is not a substitute for legal advice. It's a good idea to talk to a solicitor before attending mediation sessions, to make sure you understand your rights and options. Talk to your solicitor before agreeing to anything with your partner.

You may decide to go to court to make decisions about your home if you and your partner cannot agree. A solicitor who specialises in family law can discuss your options and represent you in court.

Find a solicitor

You can search for a solicitor near you on the Law Society of Scotland website.

Where to find mediation and counselling

The Scottish Mediation Network

Call to find a mediator in your area. Their website has a tool to find a mediator.

0131 556 8118

Relationships Scotland

Mediation and counselling for families and couples.

0345 119 2020

The Spark

Counselling for individuals and couples. A free and confidential helpline is available if you need to talk things through.

0808 802 2088

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Last updated: 15 June 2021

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